Saturday, September 14, 2013

Self-help is not the way to happiness



Self-help in America is big business -- an $11B business a year, in fact.  It's the same size as Nordstroms, Whole Foods or Black & Decker.

Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be working.  According to the 2013 Happiness Index, the United States is ranked #17.  Not bad.  But, our less wealthy neighbors, Canada and Mexico, appear to be happier.

Why has America gone "gangbusters" over self-help?  

Well, I think it comes from our emphasis on the individual and democracy.  We've developed legends around the "self-made rags to riches" hero, which coincidentally shames those who have not achieved success in our "equal society" (see more here & here).

This status anxiety has led to two popular types of self-help:
1. How to be rich and powerful just like me (not me, Tamara... me, the hypothetical author)
2. Oh, you're not rich and powerful and loved?  You must have low self-esteem.  I can help.

Rather than see a professional, Americans typically prefer to try to solve their problems on their own or find a "silver bullet."  In fact, 10% of Americans are on anti-depressants, but most do not see a therapist.  Rather than taking time to develop happiness-inducing habits, we prefer to believe the snake oil of Joel Osteen, Suze Orman or Anthony Robbins

Like Alain de Botton says, "People are so proud to go the gym; so ashamed to go to the therapist."

Based on my Coursera class, Social Psychology by Scott Plous, there seems to be a few proven ways to improve happiness.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Child's Play

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Over the weekend, Alan & I reverted back in time.  We went to a water park (Wild Wild Wet, to be exact) as two, fully functioning adults.  

No kids.  Just us and our bathing suits.  It was a lot of fun.

We went on this ride 2x:
 - Time #1: All color left my face
 - Time #2: I screamed a lot of profanities for a kids theme park.

Conclusion: It was time well spent.  We laughed really hard and were in a great mood for the rest of the day.  Even decided to follow-up the experience with some good, old root beer.

Note: We left after ~1.5 hours of fun.  There's only so much Miley Cyrus & swimming in kids' pee that we can take.

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